Sometimes, I feel frustrated. Helpless. Out of control.
And whenever that happens, it’s a sure sign I’ve been placing most of my attention on my outer reality, to the detriment of my inner life.
Life has shown me, again and again, that while I may not have control over anything, I can profoundly influence how I experience the world via some conscious choices.
So when I start freaking out about things like politics, or my relationships, or climate change, or whatever, I’ve learned to course correct.
Because no matter how important something may be, freaking out and feeling disempowered helps nothing and no one.
Here are a few things I’m doing right now (because we teach what we need to learn. Yeah, I’m learning the things I teach once again. Time to quit surfing Politico and start getting serious about creating peace in my heart, so I can be the change I want to see).
Take a media fast. Set clear limits on what your mind ingests for a while. Maybe you take a day away from news each week. Or for certain time periods each day (when you first wake up and for a couple of hours before bed, for instance). Or you can get really crazy and avoid the “news” for a few weeks (or longer). You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel. And when you decide to let it in again, you will probably be more discerning about how you do that.
Invest in silence and solitude. Forget about finishing the to do list and taking care of everyone else’s needs for a bit. You’ll never process all the information, or meet all of the needs, and the noise will never stop on its own. Only you can set some boundaries and protect some quiet time with yourself as sacred. You’ll be amazed at what bubbles up to the surface when the external distractions and the mind chatter subside. Go ahead, make a daily, quiet date with yourself. You’re worth it.
Move. Walk. Stretch. Dance. Cycle. Run. Lift some stuff. Skip. Run. Play.
Go outside. Being in nature gives you glimpse of the enormity of the universe, while also revealing the beauty in the smallest, simplest things. Spending time outdoors, where your senses can experience the elements, is grounding and centering. And it reminds you that everything passes.
“When despair for the world grows in me, and I wake in the night at the least sound, in fear of what my life or my children’s lives may be, I go and lie down where the wood drake rests in his beauty on the water …for a time I rest in the grace of the world, and I am free.”
Read. Feed your mind with inspiring words. Rediscover literature. Get lost in a transformational novel and then ask yourself how it speaks to you. Read a poem out loud and notice what happens in your body.
“People are hungry, and one good word is bread for a thousand.”
Find Community. Spend time with people who bring out the best in you, who are making the world anew with the way they live, who make you laugh and who nurture your dreams.
Do Some Good. Look for ways to make a difference. A small kindness may have large ripples.
Take an Inspired Risk. Act from the deepest and most courageous part of who you are. Do the bold thing.
Create. You’re never closer to your Source than when you are allowing the beauty of the Universe move through you. Don’t worry about whether you have ever thought of yourself as an artist before. Solving problems is beautiful. Speaking an encouraging word is lyrical. Navigating relationships in a loving way is a symphony. Life is a raucous, riotous, hilarious theatre. Sing your part. Dance. Speak. Connect. Walk in beauty.
The world is what we make it, my friend. And the life you are longing for begins inside of your precious heart, woven by your love and imagination. Live it.
Sending so much love your way, and asking you to join me in sending a wave of peace, hope and promise into our world,